Yes Means Yes blog: “visions of female sexual power & a world without rape”
Parents, siblings, carers, cousins, teachers, tutors, mentors, aunts, uncles, etc, of young children: we have a chance to mold the gender relations of the future.
A boy and a girl run around on the grass at the park. The boy tackles the girl. The girl laughs. She gets up and runs away. She loves to run. He chases, she turns and they grab each other, tumble and land in a pile, giggling. After a few minutes, he tackles her again and she lands a bit hard. She is bigger and physical, but he more than holds his own in roughhousing. She pauses for a second. Then she laughs again; she’s still having fun.
Dad gets his attention, and says, “If she’s not having fun, you have to stop.”
He is two. He needs to hear this now, and so does she. And again, and again, and again, so that like wearing a helmet on the bike it is ingrained.
on a hill overlooking kabul, with little access to electricity, more than one thousand women have made their own houses, brick by brick, from the land beneath them. they have created what is known by afghans as tapaye zanabad - “the hill that women built.”
widowed by the violence of the past 15 years, these women were left without the means to take care of their families, let alone a place to live. many were forced into prostitution and lived in constant fear of the taliban’s strict interpretations of sharia law.
the united nations development fund for women places the number of ‘war widows’ in afghanistan at more than two million. many are are uneducated, illiterate and lack basic job skills, and lead, as a consequence, secluded, poverty stricken lives. as one of the hill’s inhabitants put it, “it is better to be dead than be a widow in afghanistan.”
beginning in 2001, widows from all corners of afghanistan left the shadows of their harsh life for the rumor of a utopia in kabul made just for them. the abandoned government property they live on, once an outpost for the soviets, is now organized by the women in commune fashion.
aneesa (pictured above), with few relatives and no work opportunities for her as a woman, came to the hill after her husband, a soldier, was killed. “once you become a widow and live alone, people are strange toward you. they say a lot of bad things,” she said. “we feel more comfortable when we’re around other widows.”
but it was tough going at first, as police would tear down the homes and walls. but, she says, “i would rather have died than abandon this place.” with little help from the government or international donors, however, the hill can only offer mere refuge to these women.
1. Hajimir Ahmad
Seventy-six year old village elder, Hajimir Ahmad, donated his own land to build two girls’ schools in Sangbast, Afghanistan. He says he could not educate his daughters, but it’s not too late for his granddaughters. x
2. Sultan Mohammad Yusufzai
Religious leader, Sultan Mohammad Yusufzai, along with other local community members, spent three months convincing a father to cancel the wedding of a 10-year old girl in Herat.
“The main reason for child marriage is poverty and that forces parents to agree to early marriage. The second reason is low awareness amongst families about Islamic principles and international human rights,” says Sultan Mohammad Yusufzai x
3. Mullah Azizullah
Students pass by Mullah Aziz Ullah, a local religious leader, at Sorya High School in West Kabul. The Mullah has three daughters who all attend school along with his two sons. ” I want the best for all of my children not just the boys” says Mullah Aziz x
4. Mullah (name unknown)
A mullah with his son. He has been trained on maternal health and now helps to persuade the villagers to take health care for mothers and pregnant women more seriously. Tirin Kot, Uruzgan, August 2012. x
so i was wearing this today
and it felt kinda familiar so i adjusted the shirt
put my hair down and accessorized
BOOM KIM POSSIBLE
OMG WHY IS THIS GETTING NOTES
because you actually look like a hella attractive accurate version of kim possible